THOMAS BEATIE made headlines around the world when he became the world’s first “pregnant man”, The Sun reports. Despite going through a “crazy, bitter” divorce after giving birth to three children, Thomas is now ready to marry — and be a dad — once again. But in another twist to his fascinating life story, he exclusively tells The Sun that his six-year-old son wanted to be a girl and his seven-year-old daughter asked if little girls became men.
Thomas explains: “Austin had long hair and said he wanted to be a girl until he was three. “We’ve cut his hair now and he is really into Lego, Marvel books and super heroes. “Susan is totally into fashion. She loves anything sparkling or glittery. I’ve shown her pictures of what I looked like at her age. “She asks me questions all the time, like why did I want to be a man. Once she wanted to know if she would be a man when she grew up.
“They are great questions and I always answer. I told her that was OK if she wanted to be but she laughed and said no.” Thomas has explained to his children about how they were conceived, but admits they “just think that daddies give birth”. But his transition has caused problems for them at school.
He says: “A little girl told Austin he didn’t have a daddy. A five-year-old isn’t trying to be mean, it’s what they hear their parents say. Another little girl told Susan, ‘Your daddy’s really a girl.’ “I’m not going to hide anything — I always tell the kids we are unique, we were formed in a different way from other families.“They accept that but I know there are some parents who won’t let their kids play with mine. That is sad.”
The pressure of his and wife Nancy’s unique home life put enormous strain on their nine-year marriage. The couple finalised their divorce in September and Thomas was last week sentenced to probation after admitting to stalking her as their ugly break-up was dragged through the courts.Thomas, from Hawaii, says: “We were happy and in love but after the babies came that’s when the dynamics changed.
“It was a complete emotional rollercoaster. My life was turned upside down. The divorce was crazy — so bitter and difficult.”Thomas, who gives motivational speeches about his battle to switch sex, spent two years trying to persuade judges that his Hawaiian marriage to Nancy was legal and that he was entitled to a divorce. He changed his birth certificate from female to male in Hawaii but the divorce court where he lives in Phoenix, Arizona, refused to accept it.
The state’s appeal court finally ruled in his favour last year. But even then his battle with former body-builder Nancy, 52, continued for another 12 months.During the proceedings, he accused Nancy of beating him up and abusing alcohol — she denied it and alleged that it was Thomas who was abusive.He spent a night in jail after Nancy discovered a GPS tracking device on her car in September last year. He pleaded guilty to disorderly conduct last month.
He says: “I’ve never even had a parking ticket and didn’t know I’d broken the law by putting a tracking device on a car I owned.”Thomas wants to move on by marrying lover Amber Nicholas, 42, and having his fourth child. Thomas began his relationship with Amber, his children’s nursery teacher, while he was still living with Nancy. They have spent more than £100,000 on IVF.
But Thomas will not carry this child as he did with Susan, Austin and their five-year-old brother Jensen. His final gender reassignment surgery in 2012 included a hysterectomy.Amber has already been pregnant using stored eggs belonging to Thomas and the same donor sperm used to conceive his three children, but sadly she miscarried.Thomas, who was recently made redundant from his job as an administrator, says: “We’re going to try again once we’re married, but we’ll use donor eggs.”
The couple plan to tie the knot in January and Thomas adds: “Last time I wore khaki pants and a lavender top, Nancy wore a lavender dress.“This time it will be a bigger wedding with me wearing a tuxedo. “And, of course, the kids will be involved. “Susan desperately wants to throw flowers. She wants to talk about the wedding every day.“She’s our wedding planner and the boys will be wearing tuxedos too as ring bearers.”